So just what is SOSEN all about? — Why would a person want to join this organization? There have been some discussions within the secure forums about just that particularly issue. It emphasized that while many new members join SOSEN every year, we also have many that move on to work with other organizations. Here is what some of our members have said when one of the members talked about leaving the group.
I was going to write a whole essay on how our family has survived the very precarious life of an RSO family. I wanted to tell those who would want to leave that perhaps they did not shout loud enough to be heard above the dramas of all of us who are here.
For those who do not feel loved and cared for here I suggest to become MORE involved so we will get to know you better. Why? Because every single one of us have so many problems that we become self-centered and guess what! We need you! We need other people to care about us too because we are going through the very same battles in life that you are.
So, in return I could say – no, I’m not happy with any organization, I don’t think anybody could make me happy or change my life or even know how to figure out how to make my life better. This includes SOSEN. So, why do I stay? I stay because I know that what I give comes back to me. So, I give what I can. I stay because I know that people here really DO CARE and I stay because I want to help the cause, to help other people. I stay because I know that no matter how much drama I have in my life that is created by RSO laws I know that others are going through the very same thing and I want to help them.
Lately I have been sick and I really feel the shift of things in contrast to those days when I had more energy and could give more. But how could I blame Sosen people for the lack of attention if I’m not even around for them to notice? If I have drama, so do they, so do you and we are all pretty overwhelmed with the RSO laws and with the treatment of non-RSO’s who are loved ones/family – so we are in survival mode – quite literally, and when we are in survival mode we don’t notice the problems of other people unless they put it out there right in front of our faces.
So, I suggest to join the people at Sosen and get to know them and you will find that you can make friends and feel loved and cared for.
I know one of the reasons I like being involved in SOSEN is due to the Differences in the people here. It is healthy to read about other peoples’ experiences, and to see things from different perspectives. If I stayed in my own little world, I think that I might go crazy.
“Sex offenders” are NOT a homogeneous group. I haven’t given any though as to what anyone who comes here has done to land on the registry. However, there are people here who may have committed rape or abused a child. Some may have just pissed behind a dumpster, some may have been a “Romeo” (if you’ve been here a while you should know the lingo), and some may have been viewing questionable material. Others may have simply been accused of something they didn’t do.
Everyone also has their own motivation for coming here. Some only want to fight for Romeos, some only care they get off the registry, and some (like me) fight for freedom for ALL who have served their sentences. We simply won’t agree on everything. Hell, there’s even people here I can’t stand!
HOWEVER, there is NO place on the Internet that offers what SOSEN offers, a place where registrants and their loved ones can come to, in a secure environment, and voice their opinions; not even RSOL offers that! When people call me looking for support groups, SOSEN is the first place that comes to mind. Is it perfect? No, but it is the best lace available for those who want to speak freely without having to be judged by trolls like Valigator.
If you are looking for a place where everyone matches your world view on every matter, you will find yourself in a very, very small group. The few groups that are issue-specific tend to be very enclosed and they don’t offer anything for people just wanting to share experiences.
As far as a list we all agree on, I doubt we’d find a 100% consensus on any issue. Amazingly enough, there are a few activists who believe the registry is not a bad thing and it only needs to be reformed. I say scrap the damned thing.