Teacher’s Inappropriate Note to Second Grader Raises Questions

Because SOSEN believes in solutions and prevention of child abuse, We think the following article shows good sense by the parents. The teacher was cleared by internal and external background checks but as we all know most new child sex abusers do not have a criminal record and are not on the registry.  We believe the teacher was exhibiting classic grooming behavior. He should be obliged to talk to a counselor so he never takes the next step.


Teacher’s Inappropriate Note to Second Grader Raises Questions

The father of a 7-year-old girl is voicing concerns this week after his daughter received an inappropriate note from a teacher at her elementary school.

Cary Reed, a father of five in Aurora Colorado, says his daughter started at the Aurora Academy Charter School this year as a second grader. “She had been there for two weeks and didn’t really know anybody yet, and my understanding is that she was sitting by herself at recess, and not necessarily playing with anyone because she hadn’t befriended anyone yet,” Reed tells Yahoo Parenting. “This fourth grade teacher was on the playground and had given up his lunch hour to play with the kids, which on the surface is commendable. But then she came home with a note from him that she was excited about. She was calling him by his first name; we hadn’t heard of him and we knew he wasn’t her teacher, so it kind of gave us an eye raise.”

The note, which Reed’s daughter shared with her parents, included a photograph of the teacher sticking his tongue out at the girl and called her by the nickname Stinky Butt. “It seemed kind of weird. Why would he take a personal photo of himself? And that Stinky Butt part got to me — I work in education, and I wouldn’t do that,” Reed, who is an administrator at a charter school program for at-risk youth, says. “On the flip side, we thought maybe it was harmless and we didn’t want to pass judgment or tell our daughter to stay away from him just based on this. But if I were in his position, I might have said something to her teacher or an administrator as a heads-up, like ‘Hey, I wrote her this note, just let her parents know who I am.’ That kind of thing.”

The following day, Reed’s daughter, whose name he declined to share, came home with a second note from the same teacher. This time, the note included a poem with lines like, “you make me smile” and “I hope our friendship can be the key.” The note raised more warning flags for Reed. “It seemed like it was asking for friendship,” he says. “It was really inviting, and it just felt off. Whether this had good or bad intentions, it crossed professional boundaries and made me wonder what he is up to.

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3 comments for “Teacher’s Inappropriate Note to Second Grader Raises Questions

  1. Anonymous
    October 25, 2015 at 8:15 am

    Writing notes on any level to children from any adult in any nature is strictly unacceptable. We have parents for a reason.

    • pgm111
      October 29, 2015 at 10:27 am

      In 2004, the U.S. Department of Education commissioned a study and came to the conclusion that sexual misconduct by educators toward students is pervasive. The study is called “Educator Sexual Misconduct: A Synthesis Of Existing Literature”.

  2. kayt
    October 27, 2015 at 7:39 am

    It’s pretty easy to spot “grooming” techniques and sending cutsie notes to a student qualifies. We could give this teacher the benefit of the doubt and say that he is certifiably nuts, but who wants a crazy teacher stalking their child? Either way, the parents and the school did the right thing. Sad to say this teacher may not be able to teach anymore but the truth is that he probably shouldn’t. I do feel sorry for his family, but this man may have been averted and instead of being a sex offender for life maybe he’ll straighten up and train for a job that will keep him on the safe side of the line.

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