Registered Citizens Step up to Help.

This is just a notice to all SOSEN members. I want to say Thank you for everything you have done for me. Although I personally am not a registered citizen, in the past I have had friends who were on the registry and friends who were not on the registry. The more I have learned about a registered citizen’s life and how much his/her rights are being scandalously stolen the more I have fought for them. The more I stood up for my friends who were on the registry the more my ‘friends’ who were not on the registry seemed to avoid me. Soon almost all of my family had even turned against me and abandoned me.

After a few very troubling circumstances, and an eviction, a registered citizen that had been a friend for only a short time opened his doors to me. It wasn’t much, but it was a roof over my head and I was in out of the rain. I began to become more involved in different groups that were fighting for registrant’s rights. After a small amount of time I was given the chance to move to a different state by another registered citizen. Then after only a few short months I found I needed to return to my home state because of a serious medical problem my mother was experiencing. Unfortunately I did not have the financial means for the trip. I had just about given up on the chance of ever seeing my mother again when two registered citizen friends of mine stepped up and gave me what I needed for the trip of almost 2,000 miles.That was also right about the same time my membership in SOSEN had just begun.

After the passing of my mother it was necessary for me to move yet again. With no ideas and  seemingly no one to turn to  I called upon some of of my registered citizen friends for advice. These friends not only comforted me in the loss of my mother but found another place for me to stay for a short time. At the end of that stay two more registrant friends found a nice location for me to live on a limited income.

I have been able to find various good places to live, receive comfort at one of the most grievous times in my life, become more educated and assist in making advancements in a cause I truly believe in. Throughout  these experiences I have found who my true friends were and I am now making more friends every time SOSEN gets a new member. Is it any wonder that I can now consider all of you at SOSEN my family? These learning experiences have been wonderful. THANK YOU SOSEN for all you have given me, I only wish I could do as much for you in return. I am going to give it my best shot and continue to fight for the rights of all registered citizens and SOSEN. Once again, thank you.

11 comments for “Registered Citizens Step up to Help.

  1. Unforgiven
    August 13, 2017 at 9:07 am

    Thank u for all you do for us on the registry, I wish the public could read your story of the compassion shown to you in finding you shelter and you finding that same compassion in helping us with our struggle,and it is a daily struggle !! Sosen has become a daily place I go for inspiration and information as well.I thank them as well.The state I live in is up for very big changes soon,I hope other states will wake up,but it make many court challenges to get relief from the hell we live in called the registry.

  2. Tim Lawver
    August 15, 2017 at 1:34 pm

    I can very much relate to your position. Sex offender is a term used by DOJ and the people of the US to identify citizens of questionable character. Sexual Oriented offender is the term applied to me during sentencing phase for a assault conviction in 1992. I knew then i was not guilty, but the prosecution was able to convince the jury to convict! They were able to do so without evidence! DNA defense was not available to me in 1992 tho it may have proven my absolute innocence. I know this has happened to many other people; see the folks at innocence, and wrongful convictions blog.

    I am not a sex offender! I am also not a felon yet I am labeled that too. The real question for me is where is all this going in terms of LIBERTY itself. SORP is no friend of liberty. In fact it’s purpose is to place barriers around: public places, parks, schools, libraries, towns, churches, for those on the database.

  3. Jerry P.
    August 15, 2017 at 7:04 pm

    Thanks for sharing Emily. If it’s okay I would love to be part of “our” family too. It’s sad I agree with what you wrote. After being on the registry for going on 11 years now, Ive seen my biological family grow up and away… They’re living their lives while mine is stuck under this registry going and growing nowhere fast. My family is who I make it to be… The best to you and thanks for your support and kind heart and soul…

  4. Anonymous
    August 15, 2017 at 8:23 pm

    Yesterday I rode my bike to the Santa Cruz wharf and remembered a lunch shared at the water’s edge with my friend who went through so much with me being on the registry. I took a moment for myself, surrounded by people but completely alone. So many thoughts of directions my life could have taken. So many thoughts on where my life might go. It was my dream that if I got rich, i’d move back to the place I love so much. I’m not rich, but i’m now back to the place where i had a future, just before I threw it all away. almost 18 years ago. I spent my afternoon today checking in with the Santa Cruz Sheriff Department, giving my signature, thumbprint and getting my photo taken once more. At least this time it’s the annual “happy birthday, you must come in to register” gift i’m given each year and not my monthly check-in for not being in a house. This new chapter started a few months ago. A glimmer of my long term dream of going off grid is shimmering in Washington State, if everything goes alright. But if i decide to take that path, I know it will be the end of my contact with the outside world. Secretly i am hoping for a miracle that will alter my desire to continue to isolate myself but honestly, even friendships hurt so much i continue to isolate myself further. To people like you who fight for people like me, I wish to say Thank you, even if I don’t deserve it.

    • Jerry P.
      August 16, 2017 at 12:01 pm

      Dear Anonymous,

      I don’t deserve forgiveness for my offense– but I have worked hard to forgive myself. I can only hope my young victim will forgive me some day.

      I served three years in prison and was in therapy while incarcerated. Fifteen guys were in my therapy course. The stories and situations of each man in my class varied from inappropriate touching to rape and murder with both male and female victims. Each of us thought our own ‘situation’ was the worse. I learned so much about myself during the time I spent in class with those men. Im still in touch with a few and I occasionally call the prison and talk to my therapist-just to catch up with him and his life. My family and friends deserted me when I went to prison. I had no visitors nor was I able to call anyone. Two prison volunteers saw my brokenness and became my “new” family… Since my released from prison they have been my biggest supporters. (Ive lost what Ive meant to say typing this with one finger on my broken phone screen) 😕

      I don’t know you anonymous but Im willing to love you…

      I am willing to forgive you no matter what you’ve done…

      I wish you peace and happiness in your life. I think everyone deserves a second chance…


  5. Laurence Allen Vaughan
    August 17, 2017 at 10:41 pm

    Hello Emily. I would like to thank you for all you have done even I don’t know I think everyone appreciates what you have done to help and enjoy helping you. It is always a blessing to have someone like you with us. I wish there were more out there like you.

  6. Julie
    August 22, 2017 at 11:10 pm


    • Jerry P.
      August 23, 2017 at 3:46 pm

      Thanks Julie…. I appreciate your kind words. I will be praying for your son–and you. My mom passed away on Feb 8 of this year. I know my felony was tough on my mom. I hate the fact she didt get to see me off the registry. (not sure I will ever be off the registry for that matter) Thanks Julie for being in my family. Sosen really lets me know I am not alone!!

  7. Kayt
    August 23, 2017 at 7:29 pm

    I don’t know what to say to add to the comments.I think to just say Thank You!

  8. mike r
    August 24, 2017 at 12:05 pm

    OK man it’s a wrap..
    I am going to file Tues. Wish us all luck, pray,or whatever you feel will……

  9. Untied_States
    September 2, 2017 at 10:14 am

    Not all Sex Offenders are repeat offenders. I agree that you do need to set boundaries for trust reasons but we also as a nation need to stop choosing to stay offended. It is one thing to get offended and have a bout of various feelings, but we also need to forgive those who have offended us FOR US. Harboring ill feelings against someone for a lengthy period is not healthy for you.

    Placing people on the registry is like a branding of cows. The only thing people know is our conviction by that certain mark and trust me, that alone would make me upset too. However, we need to look beyond that especially the length and or period for which it has happened. Many offenders are still trying to find their way and haven’t. Where do they turn to for help?? What are their options as far as employment and who is really willing to give them the benefit of the doubt??

    Someone else’s sin is nobodies business.

    We call this a christian nation and i for one believe that has failed to deliver on its demeanor and truth and what that stands for.

    Abolish the SOR and come alongside those who have fallen short of the glory and realize, We too have made mistakes. Lets be accountable to each other and help a brother and sister who is in need during hardships.

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