The Truth — Are We There Yet

More and more, I think that the effects the registry is having leads to more families becoming unwilling to report abuse, and so in some cases, the abuse then continues.

The registry has grown so large that nearly everyone knows at least one person who is registered.  If you were to interview complete strangers on the street you would find this to be true.  So I did, with twenty people coming out of a nearby convince store and it did prove that now nearly everyone knows someone who is registered.  Actually 18 of the 20 said yes they knew someone name that was on the registry, only 15 of the twenty said they actually knew the person personally or at least knew who they were, and then with 11 of those 15, a most surprising thing occurred.  Without me bringing it up, eleven of those asked about people on the registry went on to say on their own, that “the person they knew was not like those others on the registry and really shouldn’t be on the list.”  I also asked if they had actually checked the online registry and how often they had gone to the site.  Only one person had gone to the site and they were one of the people that hadn’t know anyone on the registry.

Last of all, while I only asked people that I didn’t know, no one indicated they knew who I was or even suggested that I might be a registrant myself.

The gay movement actually finally moved out of the closet and gained traction once it became common that nearly everyone knew at least one person who was gay.

Except for the political gains for politicians, I truly believe the tide is turning, but still remaining are the staggering consequences that this registry system has caused and one of the primary failures is that it has and is causing many many families to keep their secret and they are no longer willing to report their family’s crime.

3 comments for “The Truth — Are We There Yet

  1. Scott
    August 29, 2015 at 5:00 pm

    What if child sex abuse was the result of someone becoming gay?? Was the person born that way?? Is being Gay a mental illness or is it really pedophilia?? I think we need to look at the past of many. Not that being abused is an excuse to abuse others but generational abuse in many families carries on until the fall guy gets caught and dealt with. Lets make the outcome of being caught be therapeutic and not a lifetime of an institution.

  2. kayt
    August 30, 2015 at 11:02 am

    Frankly, I have always thought that we should show strength in every possible way and embrace anything that makes us morally upright, mentally and physically strong and that gives us the ability to change ourselves and to help others along the way. I have always believed in carefully deciding what the outcome would be of everything that I did and act accordingly depending on what consequences I was prepared to deal with. I have always hoped that I would land on the safe side of every situation.

    Obviously I have not always been successful in all of my endeavors. It’s easier to talk about something than to actually do it and easier to reap serious problems rather than awesome benefits. Since not all has gone the way I would have liked, I agree with Scott, we need to make the outcome of the problems in our life evolve into a therapeutic situation and not a lifetime of an institution.

    But, for the sake of argument, what exactly is a lifetime of an institution? Is it for me, a collateral damage institution and for someone else a different thing such as having to register or face horrific torment, hounded by parole officers and police in response to ever changing laws? How do we turn that into therapy instead of a lifetime of an institution? Just curious for the sake of argument here.

    • scotts
      August 31, 2015 at 8:10 am

      Pretty much Kay. it about sums it up for which you said. i believe the reap of our problems is on going and having to register as a citizen is like someone who has a contagious disease or something. I am all for the protection of children and keeping kids safe. I just feel the SOR list is another bias way to make people pay dearly for their crimes. I believe people can change but it is like telling a kid they are worthless time after time, eventually if you tell someone that enough times eventually they start to believe it. We need to get stop telling society SOs are unchangeable. Put them to work with a place to live like any other person and stop putting barriers up to cause them to relapse for lack of support and the burden of hardships.

      I would love to spread this message but nobody politically in my community or state even considers that an option.

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